Monday, December 19, 2005

Petunia's Advice

How to Get Over a Guy
(by Petunia McGillicuddy)

with added commentary by me

1. Realize that anything good in him, is somewhere inside you, too, because you were able to notice it in him and value it.
I'm not so sure about the goodness part...you Plymouth people who know the whole T in TULIP know what I mean. However, it does seem reasonable that we can see the good traits in the guy, which is what we'd like to see in ourselves, and maybe he brings that out in us.

2. Sit at home and cry as much as you want until you are ready to stop crying. watch really depressing movies about people who kill themselves over love (so you vicariously experience self-indulgence) and then watch movies where bad things happen to good people for no reason (so that you feel compelled to get off your tushy and counterbalance the bad that happens in the world).
I LOVE this part!! I tend more to write looooong notes to friends that go in circles and really say nothing, but are very bemoaning and tragical. Also, watching movies where they live happily ever after is more my style. A Cinderella Story and Ever After are two prime examples.

3. Let your friends know you are in kind of a bad way, so that they can intervene and call you to go out, when you pass the stage of feeling sorry for yourself as purging, and into feeling sorry for yourself as turning into moldy crud indistinguishable from the oldest thing in the farthest-back tupperware container in your fridge.
lol, thats so true. My closest friends are able to tell when I was thinking of the guy. More often then not they try to cheer me up. Thats one major reason I love 'em all so much!!

4. Realize that the parts of him you fell in love with are in many places (including you), and that you have the power to recreate what you loved about him, to notice it in others, to bring it out in yourself, or simply to remember and appreciate it. When you are ready, you'll go out and love all the world with the tiny part of him that is really just a mirror of what already existed within you.
As deep and philosophical as that is, if you take the time to think about it, it makes perfect sense. When you fall for a guy, if you really fall for him, not just think he's SO HOT or whatever, there are specific things that made you do so. Maybe it's his sense of humor, the way he treats people, his leadership abilities, how sweet he is to his mom, whatever it may be, you had a reason. It's important to look for that in whoever else is in your little world. And if the reasons you fell for him were shallow or stupid...you'll find that out, too. Little things that you remember about him always catch you off guard, but in time it fades. Hopefully this'll all work for me eventually, too.

13 Comments:

Blogger scarlatti said...

well, that sounds good. when i do need to get over a guy really desperately, i will use this. but erika, i didnt know you were going through all this trauma. makes me wonder about you. it really does.
are you coming skiing?

6:52 PM, December 20, 2005  
Blogger scarlatti said...

you know, loretta, your profound wisdom is renowned in the kindgom of scarlettville. i will order my loyal subjects to read it, asap

8:07 PM, December 20, 2005  
Blogger scarlatti said...

erika you fiend!!!

2:25 PM, December 24, 2005  
Blogger scarlatti said...

tis about time you updated. speak of christmas. ham. poinsettias. candy canes. and stuff.

8:59 PM, December 26, 2005  
Anonymous hesbelikar said...

I agree with Scarofvendetta; it is time you say hello. Hope you have had a nice Christmas.

10:17 PM, December 26, 2005  
Blogger Petunia McGillicuddy said...

I'll update: hey Erika, I watched "Now, Voyager!" and cried a bunch. "Oh Jerry, don't let's ask for the moon. We have the stars."

1:39 PM, December 27, 2005  
Blogger Erika said...

Skiing was a good time!! Loretta seems to have disappeared, although she did comment on one of my other posts. I'm NOT a fiend!! and I don't really like candy canes!!

hesbeliker, so nice to see you again!! I did have a merry christmas, and hopefully you did too!!

Petunia, without you for inspiration, where would I be?? I shall look the movie up and see if it appears to be any good. It sound tragical mayhap?

I shall update tonight if I can think of something to say!!

10:42 AM, December 28, 2005  
Blogger Petunia McGillicuddy said...

yeah, it's pretty tragical, and it's also pretty melodramatic. the best and happiest part though is when bette davis is hosting a party at her mansion and they are roasting weenies in the fireplace; she tells one of the guests, "they make delicious canapes!" but, upon reflection, this bummed me out because I started feeling like being an old maid is only ok and fun if you have a mansion in which to throw parties and roast weenies. darn it!

11:41 AM, December 28, 2005  
Blogger Erika said...

lol petunia, well, maybe we'd BOTH better start saving our money!!

4:15 PM, December 28, 2005  
Blogger Petunia McGillicuddy said...

ok!

9:59 PM, December 28, 2005  
Blogger scarlatti said...

my name is not scarfovendetta or whatever.

7:15 PM, December 31, 2005  
Blogger Polly the Warrior Princess said...

This is for the he'sabigliar guy. I don't think it's true that your heart is a tiny raisin. I think your heart is a golden orb, hidden behind the clouds, because you learned a long time ago that the light and heat of it blinds the people you love. You go around warning people about titanium dioxide, but what you really need is a girl who shines back.

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